We acquire most of our "bad habits" from our neighbours to the north

Ask Dr. Pam

Dear Readers,

Bahamians often suggest that our being so close to the United States of America causes us to "get a cold when she sneezes." Who can argue with the fringe benefits that we continue to enjoy because of this proximity? In fact, it can be concluded that while most of our tourists and consequently, spending dollars hail from North America, it is Bahamians who keep South Florida's economy viable. Living in the neighbourhood does have its advantages.

Toys such as cheaper consumer goods, cars, fashionable clothing, affordable recreational activities, musical exchanges, large malls and fast food venues, contribute to the quality of life for the average Bahamian. Florida does her share of keeping many of us happy. Perhaps, the accessibility of Florida's goods is one of the reasons Bahamians, for the most part, return to The Bahamas.

What is interesting about this exchange, however, is the assertion that we acquire most of our "bad" habits from our neighbours to the north. While I do agree that the influence from the United States is undeniable, I submit that there are many wholesome qualities that I wish Bahamians would adopt. As one who has spent more than 20 years living and working in the United States, I venture to say that there were many lessons learnt there and I have acquired some relics that I have implemented into my life, and I am intent on keeping.

For the next several weeks, I will include an area in the column called, "pet peeves." The reading audience is invited to write in and tell us of personal "pet peeves." I will print them as a way of information sharing and examining the areas in our lives where we place great emphasis, while defining who we are and with what we choose to live.

Pet peeves are little things for which you have a strong dislike. They can make your life uncomfortable and can even place great strain on relationships. They have to be negotiated, so that both complainant and perpetrator are able to function on a healthy level. If they are not dealt with properly, pet peeves can lead to undue stress and other physiological concerns. You are therefore advised, to examine any issues about others' actions or behaviours that bother you and deal with these concerns.

On this note, here are two of my pet peeves that have Bahamian significance, but I love the way that the average American deals with them.

*Uninvited visitors- Many Bahamians drop by unannounced. The average American would call first.

*Assuming since we are in a relationship, everything I have is yours, e.g., food items or personal items. Many Bahamians would consume items first and inform later. The average American would ask first and then consume.

Keep the pet peeves and dialogue coming!!

Dr. Pam

Point to Ponder: When mimicking actions of others copy things that are life enhancing.

Ask Doctor Pam is an advice column that is featured every Saturday in this journal. Your letters and comments are encouraged. You may email your letters or comments to askdoctorpam@yahoo.com, or write to Askdoctorpam P.O. Box F43736. Dr. Pam is a Clinical Psychologist trained in all areas of mental health.

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